In typical therapist fashion, I will answer your question with a question: Do you want a divorce? If the answer is no, then we would never advise that you break a bond you wish to fight for. If the answer is more complicated than yes or no, then let’s talk. The role of a therapist is not to tell you what to do or to make major life decisions for you. We want to partner with you to help you sort through all the factors to determine what is healthiest for you and your family. As marriage therapists, we never get into the business hoping to see couples get divorced- rather we are often children of broken homes hoping to help couples work through difficulties and come out healthier together on the other side. However, every situation is unique and sometimes health is not one-size fits all. About 60 percent of the couples we see come to us because they love each other deeply and want to work through their difficulties. Another 40 percent have complicated difficulties that partially make them want to work it out and partially cause so much pain, they are not sure they can keep going. Wherever you are at, please know you will be met with compassion and you will never be told that you must get divorced or must stay together. You will be empowered to make informed and thoughtful decisions about your relationship and your decisions will be highly honored by your therapist.
Yes, for many of our clients, it is important to them to know that their therapist shares their values and trusts in the healing power of God’s grace on humanity as a key part in changing their thoughts, healing their trauma, and building healthy relationships. However, it is not necessary to be a Christian to receive the highest quality counseling services with us.
At Greater House we welcome people of all different faiths and religious creeds. You do not have to have a faith in God or even know where you stand on the issue to get compassionate and quality services with us. We provide our expertise in human psychology, trauma & the brain, attachment, and family/relational dynamics to help you reach your own goals and improve your mental health. Our desire is for you to feel fulfilled and happy with your own life and decisions- if God or religion is a part of that, then that will be part of our conversations together; if not, then it won’t. If you have a different faith than your therapist, it is our goal to learn and understand how your view and relationship with your faith impacts your life and mental health. As much as we hope to provide our expertise to help you with your mental and relational health, we also consider ourselves learners and equals sharing this journey towards healing and connection with our clients.